A Dip In The Reality Pool
1. You have at least one right. You have the right to walk away, but you must accept that it will probably mean no going back.
2. 24/7 is a mindset, the lifestyle will involve family, work and bills just like any other way of life.
3. You will get hurt non-consensually sometimes.
4. Don't trust too quickly.
5. Don't agree to things in cyber that you know you cannot accomplish in real life.
6. Your cyber safeword is the off button on your computer. Use it.
7. There are going to be times when you're just not in the mood to do anything. Prepare yourself mentally for it because it is still going to happen..
8. There will come a time when you see your Dominant scratching himself, belching and in need of a shower. Prepare yourself for that as well.
9. 24/7 Total Power Exchange is not a myth. 24/7 in chains, naked and kneeling, is.
10. Don't submit to or collar someone you have only ever "met" online or phone.
11. Distance is not insurmountable.
12. If you meet false or potentially dangerous people, name them so others don't fall into the same trap.
13. Tell your doctor what you're into, or be prepared to deal with them reporting you to the authorities.
14. An expensive flogger doesn't make you a better Dominant.
15. Transmitted diseases exist and some can kill, practise safe sex with new partners.
16. Don't give up your friends. You might need them later.
17. Never introduce yourself with the line "I have no limits". Everyone has limits.
18. You are only sub to the person who holds your submission, and only Master/Mistress to the person you own
19. Don't believe everything you read, especially if it was written by John Norman.
20. Just because the screen name says Master/Mistress doesn't mean they are one.
21. Networking information about others is safe practise not gossip.
22. Safecalls work. Use them.
23. It doesn't mean someone is into BDSM just because they've turned up at a munch or a fair
24. This is not all about sex. Think twice if your potenial partner only seems interested in talking about sex.
25. People are not always nice. Some manipulate the kind-hearted or prey on the vulnerable.
26. A Dominant is not a mind reader. However, a submissive needs to be.
27. Beware of self styled gurus who act like they know it all. Always seek other opinions.
28. Leather trousers or thigh boots and stockings do not make a Dominant.
29. If a relationship fails, accept it and walk away with grace. Nobody likes a stalker.
30. A Dominant who stops you from speaking to others in the lifestyle is probably insecure and unsure of his ability to hold control over you.
31. An experienced Dominant will work from the submissive's level of experience.
32. Ask yourself - would a Dominant insist you used capital letters in their name when chatting with you face to face?