I've spent 5 or 6 years researching, reading, listening about and experiencing BDSM from many aspects and continue to do so. The psychology, the legalities, the scene, activities from mild to extreme.
If I had spent those years studying the subject at uni, and specialising, as I do, in a couple of aspects of it, I could have a Masters degree (too ironic!) and a PhD by now, and been seen as fairly knowledgable in my field.
However, it seems that because this is BDSM I'm expected to say that I don't know much and am still just learning. Yes it's true, I am constantly learning in life but that doesn't mean that all I have learnt thus far counts for nothing.
I am by nature a people-watcher. Deep thinking and analytical. I have been told I am too serious and think too much. I, myself, don't see this as a flaw. I have trained in psychotherapy too and all this, combined, gives me a fairly good insight into what makes people tick.
Lately BDSM has been stuck in some kind of Bizzaro World. In regular life the academic has the status and the recognised expertise of a subject and the "doers" are seen as skilled labour or artisans. In Bizzaro World BDSM the academics are seen as merely being pretentious and the ones who can tie ropes around bodies in pretty macrame designs are seen as being experts in all other aspects as well.
We've created Subsection so I can share my thoughts and learning. I have pieces scattered in other sections throughout the site but sometimes I have ponderings and gripes that don't really fit any of the established categories and these will be found here.