al matters and straightforward shagging. I might take her soup bowl out the kitchen but I won't be attentive and adoring towards her, always longing to worship and obey, serve and please her. If she is unable, through no fault of her own perhaps, to express her inner and outer Goddess, I am not going to feel adoring and be easy to manipulate and control. If a Lady does not have that special, seductive feminine magic, or she is not in touch with it, I will not feel bewitched and offer her my soul. What does she expect?

So it seems that while a woman is developing her masculine side out in the world she is stuck with it at home for the remainder of the day, having to rely on herself for everything when, as a female, she really needs hugs, massages, pampering, etc. I am attracted to females who don't need to be told they are 'worth it,' but who know and flaunt it and always get their own way!

So, girls, I am counting on you. Infiltrate the system and eventually reawaken your Goddess and change it. Let's return to the Goddess! That way, we guys will feel more comfortable with our feminine sides and have more opportunities to really develop them.
And we can catch up.

©2003 Elmer Love-it



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Thoughts on BDSM




Female domination should be about imposing the feminine on men, educating them, and developing their own feminine side. Instead, in this country, it's just another feather in the patriarchal cap, another profession, another boring, masculine sex beast!

Personally, I hate shagging and sm! They seem to be the only things on offer in this country but they're just examples of a stagnant, elderly, dying patriarchal society that banished all things feminine a few thousand years ago and has suppressed them ever since. Unless you're gay and your scene is a bit more mature. *lol* If I had a remedy! believe me, I'd implement it immediately! I could try mass hypnosis, like using one of those special satellite dish look-a-likes in the 60s series' The Avengers.. 'y o u   a r e   a n   e l e g a n t   G o d d e s s.'

It's just that those females in our society with a penchant for power, which is sort of masculine I suppose, opt for the patriarchal model and become like men (and then complain that they don't feel adored and that men are more interested in soccer, gadgets and glamour models..too right!).

It seems that guys just have simple, crude, lustful desires and women rarely delve too far into their own femininity because they are struggling to develop their masculine side still, and use the pro Mistress persona as an alternative way to be more masculine and find work in the patriarchal system. And maybe lots of girlie subs are girls who have developed their bratty, masculine sides and want to be dominated so they can get back in touch with their feminine nature. Hence, they're just like the boys. Though, I concede that sweet, charming, feminine girl subs rock! ;) I mean I admire them and wish I could be so sweetly submissive (instead of cheeky and needing constant stern supervision!).

Women are into it because they have that feminine sense that one is essentially part of the whole and should not really hold on too rigidly to identity. They perhaps possess the wisdom that being centred in the identity is positive but that it must be 'periodically' purged and transformed...it must remain open and continue to grow. That's a wonderful concept...interchanging the masculine and feminine sides of one's personality, being able to access either or both in order to maintain a healthy balance. In a patriarchal society, of course it is in a woman's interests to develop her masculine side, and there is hope for us all if a female sub can alternate between her feminine and masculine sides so readily...if she exercises her masculine side by day and then surrenders her will to flow with her feminine nature by night! Excellent! She has something to prove and can feel proud of her achievements. But what incentive does a man have of developing his feminine side? It won't get him a better job or more money, or even more sex! In fact, it impairs these areas of his life drastically leaving him stranded in a pool of feminine vulnerability. Perhaps that is the most effective way for a man to develop his feminine side, like a fragile stem braced against the oppressive elements. I don't know.

I suppose I'd like to find a girl who is feminine by day and explores her masculine power at night. If only I had the money to keep her in a life of feminine luxury! But life is hard and a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do!! Of course she's gonna slob out in front of Eastenders and The Bill wearing scruffy jeans and no make-up and her relationships be reduced to practical matters and straightforward shagging. I might take her soup bowl out the kitchen but I won't be attentive and adoring towards her, always longing to worship and obey, serve and please her. If she is unable, through no fault of her own perhaps, to express her inner and outer Goddess, I am not going to feel adoring and be easy to manipulate and control. If a Lady does not have that special, seductive feminine magic, or she is not in touch with it, I will not feel bewitched and offer her my soul. What does she expect?

So it seems that while a woman is developing her masculine side out in the world she is stuck with it at home for the remainder of the day, having to rely on herself for everything when, as a female, she really needs hugs, massages, pampering, etc. I am attracted to females who don't need to be told they are 'worth it,' but who know and flaunt it and always get their own way!

So, girls, I am counting on you. Infiltrate the system and eventually reawaken your Goddess and change it. Let's return to the Goddess! That way, we guys will feel more comfortable with our feminine sides and have more opportunities to really develop them.
And we can catch up.

©2003 Elmer Love-it



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