What being a boi means to me:
I am female, I hate that word, but it is what I am *sighs* I am female physically… but that is as far as it goes.
I always knew I was never like other girls when I was younger, I never felt like them, played like them, but as a child I was given the name 'tomboy'… I didn't mind this as it suited me fine, as long as I wasn't a girl.
As I grew older, I was no longer allowed to be a 'tomboy', females are not 'tomboys', children are, so I became butch…. That was their new name for me, and again this suited, but I was only allowed to be butch because I am gay, If I wasn't, then who knows what name they would have for me… as it is within the gay community, I am butch, or freak to some femmes who don't understand me, and also worry with the thoughts that I will embarrass their feminist looks, people throwing us all in the same barrel so to say.
But then I found a new name, and this one, is the name I feel most comfortable with, it defines me totally, shows others who I am.
I found the BDSM lifestyle, I had always been interested, but never did anything about it, then I decided to take that step forward in my life, to find out who I truly was, and to find out where I truly belong… and I can say I am still finding that out, but definitely am on the right track now, anyway, now I have found my name…. I am a boi
A boi is a name to describe a female, one who has a female body, but has a male personality or personalities…I have found this term to be used only within the BDSM lifestyle and not generally within the gay community.
Male terms are used, but they are changed slightly, as in: Hy, Hyr, Hys, Hym, Syr, boi.
© louis, 2002
