When Someone You Love Is Kinky Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt If you've been searching for ways to explain your "kink" to a vanilla person, this book is a great place to start. I would recommend that you read it yourself first though. I don't think any book can be a substitute for an honest, thoughtful conversation, but this one certainly helps with those difficult questions that come up. It is very honest but gentle. This could be the best BDSM introduction about
	Different Loving : The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission Gloria G. Brame, William D. Brame, Jon Jacobs A very literate, caring examination of D/s feelings and desires, consisting largely of a series of in-depth interviews.
	Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns Phillip Miller and Molly Devon Bright, funny, a mixture of "why" and "how to".
	SM 101 Jay Wiseman The original "how to" manual. First edition, printed on letter-size paper on a 1980s impact printer, photocopied and Cerlox bound. Some of the writing annoying (when the writer wants to use gender-neutral language, but can think of no better way than to write such gems as "If your sub is naughty, spank them."
	On The Safe Edge : A Manual For SM Play Trevor Jacques et al. Written by four men in Toronto.Technically very thorough.
	The New Topping Book Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt Excellent advice, often anecdotal. Talks well about the rights and responsiblities of the Top and what it is like to be a top. Makes the important point that Tops and bottoms are equals.
	The New Bottoming Book Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt Well written, clear, and concise. A quick read, and easy to understand. Cute illustrations. The authors are always very good about including all genders, preferences, and relationships. Safety is stressed, as always.
	The Loving Dominant John Warren Warren approaches the subject of BDSM with humour, seriousness, safety in mind, and perhaps most of all a love of the subject. The book has obviously been well researched and well written.